“Self-confidence is the secret weapon to rule your world”
Have you ever stood in front of the mirror and felt not enough? Maybe you compare yourself to others on social media, or feel trapped in a cycle of negative thoughts about your appearance. If so, know that you are not alone. However, it's time we change this.
What Do Experts Say About Self-Confidence?
According to Dr. Nathaniel Branden, a leading psychologist and self-esteem expert, self-confidence is “the belief in our ability to think, learn, choose, and make the right decisions.” Meanwhile, Dr. Susan Jeffers, author of “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway,” emphasizes that confidence does not mean having no fear, but rather the ability to act despite fear.
Understanding the Root of Self-Confidence
Research conducted by the University of Pennsylvania shows that 85% of people experience impostor syndrome or feeling unworthy of their accomplishments. Dr. Amy Cuddy from Harvard Business School reveals that self-confidence is often rooted in childhood experiences, social pressure and beauty standards, intense social comparison in the digital age and past experiences of failure.
Real Steps to Self-Confidence
1. Recognize Your Uniqueness
Everyone has unique characteristics that make them special. Stop comparing yourself with others. Focus on what makes you different and special.
For example, identify your 5 unique strengths. For example: “I am good at listening to friends”, ”I am creative in solving problems”
2. Practice Positive Self-Talk
Always think and talk positively about yourself, for example:
- Replace “I can't possibly do it” with “I will try and learn from the process”.
- When facing a presentation, instead of thinking “I will fail”, say “I have prepared this well”
- Write affirmations on sticky notes and stick them on the mirror: “I am improving every day”, “I deserve to be happy”
3. Self-development
Self-development can be done by developing new skills or learning things that interest you or it can also be by taking care of your physical and mental health. Like the example below:
- Take an online course in a field of interest
- Start 15 minutes of light exercise every morning
- Take a public speaking workshop or a new skill
4. Accept Imperfection
Imperfections are part of our humanity. It is actually where true character and strength are formed. Embrace your imperfections as part of your life journey or a unique part of you that no one else has.
5. Dealing with Criticism and Other People's Opinions
Remember that other people's opinions about you are not the absolute truth. You are the author of your own life story. Don't let negative comments define who you are.
6. Build a Self-Love Routine
Some of the things you might be able to do in order to build your self-love include
- Appreciate your achievements, no matter how small they may be
- Surround yourself with supportive and inspiring people
- Do activities that make you happy and empowered
Self-confidence is a journey, not a destination. Start today with one small step. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are valuable. Because you are, and the world needs the best version of your authentic self.
Always remember: You are a masterpiece in progress. Every step, every learning, and every challenge is part of your beautiful journey towards the best version of yourself.
Remember Maya Angelou's words: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
Start now. Because there is no better time to start loving yourself than today.
Notes: If you are experiencing serious confidence issues or ongoing anxiety, don't hesitate to seek professional help. Trained counselors and psychologists can provide more personalized support and strategies._
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