Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov

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Why Men Love Bitches was written by Sherry Argov. Sherry Argov herself is a famous French-American author. Why Men Love Bitches was her first book, which immediately became a New York Times trend. She is known for her straightforward writing style and controversial views. In the book, Argov encourages readers to prioritize themselves and set boundaries between themselves and their relationships to create healthy relationships that do not harm women.

            When I first read it, I felt that this book opened my eyes. As I read it, I came to understand a little more about how most men think and how we behave when we encounter certain ways or characteristics in men we are in a relationship with. This book also made me rethink the idea that “women must have a good personality” as the key to a relationship. Women need independence and self-respect in their own relationships, so that they are not just pleasing their partners. Women also have the right to choose for themselves while still in a relationship. The word “bitch” does not always mean rude or naughty, but rather how we can respect ourselves. As women, we should not always chase after or depend on men for our lives.

            One of my favorite quotes is, “Whenever a woman requires too many things from a man, he'll resent it. Let him give what he wants to give freely; then observe who he is.” This quote opened my eyes to the fact that the more we care for and are kind to them, the faster they will become bored and annoyed, because they think we are demanding too much unnecessarily. It is better to let them do what they want to do and just watch. If we feel that they have crossed the line, as women or their partners, we just need to remind them.

            In conclusion, this book has changed my perspective on how we should behave as women who are independent, not overly emotional with our partners, and able to distinguish between our relationships and ourselves. Women also need to think about themselves even when they are in a relationship. This book is perfect for people who want to love themselves before starting a relationship, because loving yourself is more important than loving someone else.