Ladies, Don’t Just Love – Choose a Man Who Cares About Issues Fatherless

ZALFA AZZAHRA SALIM (3080230025)

Love is indeed very important in marriage, but love alone is not enough. Many woman dream of marrying a romantic, handsome, or well-established man. However admidst the rising phenomenon of fatherlessness, children growing up without a father figure, one crucial thing often forgotten: marrying a man who cares, a man who understand how vital a father’s role is in family life.

According to data from the National Fatherhood Initiative (NFI), children who grow up without a father are four times more likely to live in poverty, twice as likely to drop out of school, and more prone to criminal behavior. This condition is not only a social problem, but also has a major impact on the feature of the next generation.

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Why is it important to choose a man who cares about fatherlessness issues?

        a. High empathy towards family

        Men who have a good understanding of fatherlessness issues tend to be a sensitive to the emotional needs of children and partners, because they are not only physically present but also emotionally present. In a study by the American Psychological Association (APA, 2021), emotional involvement of fathers was proven to increase children's psychological well-being by up to 60%. 

        To this means that men like this are able to create a loving, safe and stable home environment. this is the main of a healthy family.

        b. Contributing to a better future for the next generation

        Fatherlessness may seem trivial to some people, but in fact it has a huge impact on child’s growth. Research from the University of Maryland shows that a father's involvement in a child's life can significantly increase the child's self-confidence, social skills, and academic achievement.

        From this we know that when a women who chooses a man understands issue of fatherlessness, she is also contributing to the development a generation that is healthier mentally and emotionally.

Therefore, it is important for woman to find a partner who is not only loving, but also responsible and caring toward the role of fatherhood. Marrying a man who cares about fatherlessness means not only thinking about herself but also the future of a healthy family.